Never in my life did I think that I’d write a post explaining how to use a #sextoy. Never! First things first, I know Kenyans are a conservative lot and many have never seen or touched a Vibrator/Dildo in their life. That is understandable. What I do not get is the questions I receive. As in, where does this one go to? How do I use it? Daaa? The hell? Why don’t you insert it in your nose? Or better still, in your mouth. I get the naivety, even me the sextoy expert started from somewhere. When I bought my first ever toy many years ago, I was 100% sure that it was not meant for my ear. Like seriously! It’s a SEXtoy for crying out loud. The term SEX gives it away doesn’t it?

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Lemmie try and simplify it. The genitalia/anal areas  is where these amazing toys are used. You could either insert it in your Vajayjay, rub them on your ka-mbosho(clit) or use them anally depending on preference. It’s that simple. At The G-Spot Kenya, we have a wide array of sex toys, From Clit simulators to G-Spot vibrators to Bondage kits to Strap-Ons to name them all. We are there for your pleasure and we understand fantasy well enough.

Today however, I thought of giving you a brief history of vibrators just so you know that we’ve come a long way and that I’m not nuts. Vibrators were discovered in the 19th century by a certain doctor who was tired of giving handjobs to women who were suffering from a condition known as Hysteria Paroxysm. Hysterical Paroxysm is basically sexual frustration. Until the 20th century, men—including physicians—believed that women did not experience sexual desire or pleasure. They believed that women were simply fleshy receptacles for male lust and that intercourse culminating in male ejaculation fulfilled women’s erotic needs. Women were socialized to believe that “ladies” had no sex drive, and that duty required them to put up with sex in order to keep their husbands happy and have children. Woe unto them, these beliefs left an enormous number or women sexually frustrated. They complained to doctors of anxiety, sleeplessness, irritability, nervousness, erotic fantasies, feelings of heaviness in the lower abdomen, and wetness between the legs.

A doctor’s job in such a situation would be to massage the women in the genital areas and viola!, the women were fine and jumping up and down as to being healed from an unknown condition. Women’s sexual pleasure was the furthest thing from the minds of the male doctors who invented vibrators almost two centuries ago. They were interested in a labor-saving device to spare their hands the fatigue they developed giving handjobs to a steady stream of women.

Let me continue with a bit of history. Hysteria Paroxysm dates back to the 13th century. Doctors of that era understood that women had libidos and advised them to relieve their sexual frustration with dildos. In the 16th century, physicians told married hysterics to encourage their husbands’ lust. Unfortunately, that probably didn’t help too many wives because modern sexuality research clearly shows that only about 45 percent of women experience orgasm consistently from intercourse. Three-quarters of women need direct clitoral stimulation, and most intercourse doesn’t supply much. For hysteria unrelieved by husbandly lust, and for widows, and single and unhappily married women, doctors advised horse riding, which, for some, provided enough clitoral stimulation to trigger orgasm. But riding provided many women little relief, and by the 17th century, dildos were less of an option because the arbiters of decency had succeeded in demonizing masturbation as “self-abuse.

Fortunately, a reliable, socially acceptable treatment appeared. Doctors or midwives applied vegetable oil to women’s genitals and then massaged them with one or two fingers inside and the heel of the hand pressing against the clitoris. With this type of massage, women had orgasms and experienced sudden, dramatic relief from hysteria. But doctors didn’t call women’s climaxes orgasms. They called them “paroxysms” because everyone knew that women were incapable of sexual feelings, so they could not possibly experience orgasm.

Unfortunately for doctors, hysteria treatment had a downside—achy, cramped fingers and hands from all that massage. Chronic hand fatigue meant that some doctors had trouble maintaining the treatment long enough to produce the desired (and lucrative) result.

Necessity being the mother of all inventions, physicians discovered the almighty Vibrators! They were  immediate hits! They produced paroxysm quickly, safely, reliably, and as often as women desired.

Today, dozens of models are available: plug-in, battery powered, waterproof, large, small, and tiny travel models (bullets). One-third of adult American women own at least one vibrator, many own several, and about half of vibrator owners use them in partner sex. And just think, we owe it all to physician fatigue.

Now, you are free to vibrate away! Clitoral stimulation with vibrators produces orgasms reliably even in women who have difficulty experiencing them in other ways. And women who use vibrators consistently report sexual enhancement in both solo and partner sex.

At The G-Spot Kenya,our new years resolution is to give you more orgasms as we believe that there are very few problems that an orgasm can’t solve 🙂

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